If a guy felt that his effort to get attention from someone he has a crush on has failed, will he show anger towards her? What if he felt she really liked him, but refused to show it? What if someone else started flirting with him and he began to like that attention and shifted his focus, will he totally forget his first crush, especially if he saw her regularly?

what if his personality is the passive aggressive type and yet acts like an ?alpha? male, and she was not impressed by that?

- Jane

May 6th, 2011

Dear Jane:
You are WAY over analyzing things! Remember the old adage about how to impress a man: “Show up naked. Bring beer.” We really are that simple.
So, to answer your questions (bearing the above in mind):

q1) If a guy’s efforts to get attention fails, will he show anger?
a1) Yes. But as soon as the hockey/football game starts, or the pizza is delivered he’ll forget all about it. Attention span of a dog…

q2) If he feels she really likes him, but she is refusing to show it
a2) He’ll continue trying because he hasn’t actually been rejected. Bumblebee keeps hitting the window…
a2) eventually something else will distract him, though.

q3) someone else starts flirting with him, will he forget his first crush?
a3) Yes. Until he’s alone and reflects on the fact he screwed up somewhere. Could take years for that to happen, as the world is full of distractions.

q4) He’s really passive-aggressive but acts like an “alpha male”
a4) If he’s acting like an “alpha male” then he’s probably not really passive-aggressive. Good that she’s not impressed, as he’s probably a psycho.

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